New player, woes and worries

Ooookay, so last night my girlfriend (who, as I've mentioned, plays in my campaign) and I went to meet that potential new player last night.

Through all the e-mails he's been sending, and talking to him on the phone, he's seemed more and more like a competent individual. It looked like he might be a bit more conservative than the rest of us, but not in a way we couldn't work around. He also seemed like he was close to our age. Still, I wanted to meet him before inviting him into our home (just in case he turned out to be creepy or something), so we finally met for coffee last night. My girlfriend came along for extra security and moral support.

Its a good thing she did, cause I don't know how I would have reacted if it was just me.

First off, he's MUCH younger than I thought he was. I'm 24, and he's 17. That's not even legal age! I don't know if I'm going to get in trouble for letting him game with us. Should I be asking permission from his parents? Seriously, I have NO idea. But that aside, he's also MUCH more conservative than I thought. Not that he seemed put off that we're lesbians, but he did skirt the issue (in his e-mails as well, now that I think about it - he called it my "lifestyle" at one point, and I asked him NOT to, and he never said anything to that...). And when I warned him that I swear, he said that was fine as long as we didn't "overtly" swear. What the hell does that mean? And who is he to decide what we can say around the table? Oh, AND he's a Powergamer! Way for him to not mention that until I had already gotten him set up in the game! I've played with Powergamers before, but I've never DM'd for one, and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it.

*inhales deeply*

Anyway, I obviously have a lot of concerns. But now that he's put so much work into his character, and I've put so much work into getting him set up, I don't want to just kick him out.

So here's what I think I'll do. I'll let everyone know before the game starts that the first two sessions (however long it takes us to get through what I've prepared, actually) are a TRIAL PERIOD for all new members. So that excludes me, Kel, and Joel, since we've all played together before. It would apply, then, to Joel's boyfriend Forrest, and the new guy, since they're both technically new. After those first couple of sessions, I may ask a player to leave the game if I don't feel that they mesh well enough with the rest of the group. And obviously, any of the players can leave anytime they want. And if someone does something I can't deal with, like disrespecting Rule 0, or making their character do something REALLY HORRIBLE (there are certain things I can't stand action-wise), I can kick them out early. I'll just note that in the e-mail I send announcing when we're starting.

In the meantime, I'll keep getting the new guy set up, and add his character to the notes I have prepared. I'll also keep a copy of the notes as they are now, in case he walks into our house, sees the blatant evidence of our lesbianism, freaks out and runs away.

...Is it wrong that part of me wishes he'd do that, just so I don't have to deal with getting rid of him myself, if he is going to be a problem? ^^;